The Power of Self-Love: Why It's Important for a Healthy and Fulfilling Life

In today's world, it's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily life, leaving little time for self-care and self-love. However, taking the time to care for ourselves and prioritize our own needs is crucial for our overall health and well-being. In this blog post, we'll discuss the power of self-love, why it's important, and provide tips for how to cultivate it in your life.

1. What is self-love?

• Definition of self-love
• Importance of self-love in our lives
• Why self-love is often neglected

2. The benefits of self-love

• Improved mental health
• Increased resilience and ability to cope with stress
• Greater self-awareness
• More fulfilling relationships
• Increased productivity and motivation

3. How to cultivate self-love

• Practice self-compassion and kindness
• Take care of your physical health
• Set healthy boundaries
• Embrace your strengths and weaknesses
• Practice mindfulness and self-reflection
• Surround yourself with positive and supportive people

In conclusion, self-love is a powerful tool for achieving a healthy and fulfilling life. By taking the time to prioritize our own needs and practice self-compassion, we can improve our mental health, increase our resilience, and build stronger relationships. By following the tips outlined in this post, you can start cultivating self-love in your life today. Remember, self-love is not selfish, it's necessary for a happy and healthy life

9 rules to stay positive

1- I need to develop the energy of never looking back from the past to see the previous chapters of life over and over since I can't return to my previous to repair things. Now's the opportunity to assess the lessons learnt once and focus on to increase my current and future.

2- I must steer clear of negative souls so I must prevent spending time with folks doing backbiting, criticizing, cursing, whining , conspiring, corrupting and complicating. (More about the 6 Cs could be read in this hyperlink.

3- I must prevent judging other people due to their activities. I have to mind my own company rather than distributing their activities and commenting in unfavorable manner. Thinking and talking about other people pollutes my ideas and steals my reassurance.

4- I need to develop the practice of gratitude. Meaning that in the conclusion of every day I have to refresh the simple fact that I'm far better than countless those people of the planet. Becoming healthy, maybe not in debt, sleeping on the mattress, eating 3 times per day and utilizing net are the fantastic blessings billions of individuals don't appreciate. Individuals possessing high degree of gratitude reinforce positive strong thoughts.

5- I need to spend some time in reading great books, visiting sites on positivity, enjoying Facebook pages comprising quotations and studying inspirational stories on daily basis. This can help eliminate negative impurities out of my nature and enable my positive character trait.

6- I have to stop being volatile and responsive to individuals and situations. I have to remain optimistic about other's feelings and respect their own views because every spirit is exceptional in believing so that I need to avoid imposing my ideas to other people. I have to confess that I'm wrong occasionally so comprehending other's standpoint be empathetic is quite crucial for me to prevent building stress decreasing my self-positivity index.

7- I have to be positive in my situation even if they're not as great. I must comprehend that time doesn't halt so I must begin taking the required actions to expedite the change procedure. One thousand plans cannot be equivalent to the energy of one great measure taken directly now!!!

8- I need to of concentrate on religious awakening acts like a) regular attacks of smiling, reduction of skill in conflicts, lack of skill to others, ability to respond to things as they occur rather than residing in anxieties and so forth.

9- I have to concentrate on enhancing the caliber of my ideas because caliber of ideas determine the amount of reassurance. 

STRANDED......I Do Not Belong Here!!!!!!!

Stranded between holding on and letting go,

Torn between embracing a happy tomorrow

Or staying pinned down by a past, dyed in hue of sorrow

Stranded by ties that held me captive

Simply because I was made to believe,

Love is blind 

Soon I learned, it was nothing more than a twisted illusion of the mind

Stranded because my heart had its roots anchored deep into the unwelcome ground

Yet somehow, to stay, I was bound

Stranded where I was planted without consent

Compelled to stay on without intent

Too young to disbound 

Too innocent to understand

Stranded far too long

In an unfortunate place

I clearly didn't belong.

Practice, Practice....Practice

*Practice....*

Once, Lord Indra got upset with farmers, he announced there will be no rain for 12 years and you won't be able to produce crops.

Farmers begged for clemency from Lord Indra, who then said, rain will be possible only if Lord Shiva plays his Damru. But secretly requested Lord Shiva not to agree to these farmers and when farmers reached Lord Shiva, he repeated the same thing that he repeated the same thing that he will play Damru after 12 years.

Disappointed farmers decided to wait till 12 years.

But one farmer regularly was digging, treating and putting manure in the soil and sowing the seeds even with no crop emerging.

Other farmers were making fun of the farmer. After 3 years, all farmers asked that farmer why are you wasting your time and energy when you know that rains will not come before 12 years.

He replied, "I know that crop won't come out but I'm doing it as a matter of "practice". After 12 years, I will forget the process of growing crops and working in the field so I must keep it doing so that I'm fit to produce the crop the moment there is rain after 12 years."

Hearing his argument Goddess Parvati praised his version before Lord Shiva and said "You may also forget playing the Damru after 12 years!"

The innocent Lord Shiva in his anxiety just tried to play the Damru, to check if he could...and hearing the sound of Damru immediately there was rain and the farmer who was regularly working in the field got his crop emerged immediately while others were disappointed.

It is the practice when keeps on making you perfect.

We become even diseased or old just because we don't practice.

Practice is the essence of quality survival.

So, let this pandemic situation lift after 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years. Whatever trade or profession we are in, keep sharpening our skills, practice with what we have, upgrade our knowledge.

Don't wait for the rain, that is this pandemic to be lifted and then start something...focus on our skills today, upskill yourself so that you are ready to meet the challenges.

What is LIFE?

If someone asks you, "What is life?" What will you answer. Millions of people living on this planet have their own definition of life. For some, it is a dream, for some life is to be happy always, foe some life is a struggle. But in today's time, we are not living our lives the way we want, we try to live upto the expectations and timelines of others instead of living to ourselves. A very famous dialogue of the hindi movie 3 idiots, "life is a race, agar tez nahi bhagoge to baaki log tumhe dhakka dekar aage nikal jaenge". But, do you really think life is all about race, why should we live our lives to win the race. Life is a beautiful journey, we travel through the mountains and valleys, we should travel through ups and downs of our life.

We get afraid if we take the wrong turn then we will not be able to come back, but its not true. It doesn’t matter how far we have gone on the wrong road we can still take the U-turn. Life is all about both success and failure. Time does not remains same always. We will be able to live a satisfied and happy life only when we understand the true meaning of failure.
The notion of perfectionist lies only in books. No one is perfectly perfect and no one is perfectly imperfect. Each individual have some qualities, some imperfections, their own likes and their own dislikes. Its not bad to listen to others, we should always be a good listener, but we should not live our life the way others want. If we are not happy, we will never be able to make the world around us happy.

We should be smart enough to holding on, but be brave enough to let go the things. Life is not about finding yourself, but life is about creating yourself. So create yourself in such a way that no one can take your happiness away from you.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us -- Buddha

आखिर दोषी कौन??

हताशा की भी क्या सीमा होगी,

निराशा भी कितनी गहरी होगी।

मायूसी का बाँध समेटे अपने अंदर,

वह ज़िंदगी भी कितना लड़ी होगी।

दोष उसका नहीं जो खेल ना पाया,

दुहरे मुखोटों को झेल ना पाया।

दोषी तो वह समूह है जो घमंड में डूबा है,

अपनी असंवेदनशीलता में उसकी चुप्पी को जो समझ ना पाया।

U for Unseen Reality

There's a fine line between existence and reality,

Is that our hope? To live long, without things going horribly wrong,
Or is it the goal? To do all things right, but only under the public light,

Things that go unseen are seldom rewarded with esteem,
Does it effects member of the society, who have forgotten such things as piety?

Will we simply become fossils? Yes, if we simply remain docile,
Or will we work to correct our wrongs?If so, we will survive the changing nature songs.

Let us retrieve what once was there,
a world with us in touch with the natural lair.

A world in which we did not try to dominate,
but one in which we did peacefully cohabitate.

I say to you my friends let us change our ways,
Let us sing again the songs of a forgotten yesterday,
Songs that put the bear, the bird, and main in the same realm,
The realm of equity, and only then we shall find ourselves back in reality.

Light After Night

The night is moving slowly to meet the light

She has the belief that slowly slowly she will merge into the light

She will find rest and peace in the arms of light

Although she won't be there

She will live in the shadow of light

Hoping that light will come to know one day that he is incomplete without night

We find the real meaning of light only after meeting the night

When you love more than you should...

Love

Taking care of someone with the deepest intentions you can ever have for someone. You keep worrying, Fussing about their health and well-being, all the time. You protect them and do everything in your power to save them from anything harmful in their vicinity.

Basically, the one you love is your 'God'... And in no way you will let anyone hurt them,  would you? 

You believe in their  potential so much that your own potential looks likes a stepping stone for them,An expendable source, in other words. But the most important of all is your will to sacrifice anything and everything for them...

But with love comes the expectations....After all the good can't exist without the evil.You start expecting that if you are putting in the efforts,  if not rewarded ,  at least they will notice your effort. (Even if it is for once.)

But when the expectations are not met,  they become sour and turn poison ☠ in your head. Suddenly,  there is a battle raging on in your mind: B/w the love you have for that person and the expectations that  hurt your feelings....

I don't know who the hell said that good  always wins because it is wrong....because it's the smart ass that takes away the win.

How you choose to respond depends on your nature.... If you are forgiving and kind and most important of all PATIENT, the light side in you(The love), it is able to hold on for an extended period of time, but due to no reciprocation of your efforts,  dark side, the hate wins the war

If you are a person who has characteristics like being adamant or impatient, the one wanting results instantaneously, the dark side(the hate) wins outright because your persona complements your hate for that person.

However by some miracle, the person starts to do,  what you were expecting from them. They start responding to you in a manner similar to yours. My friend, this is the best case scenario as love will have won the war in your head & never in your lifetime will you find your soul more full of love and affection.

The venom of expectations can be  dealt in many ways.

1. Wait it out and counter it with anti-bodies: The continuous exposure to situations like this makes you immune to feelings.

The unemet expectations always hurt, but then you already knew that And this keeps on going till you are  left insensitive to both the hate or love. You become the epitome of negativity,  not caring much about self-confidence or self or anyone else,  for that matter.  You,  in your own eyes are expendable and replaceable,  unworthy of having anyone they want to have.  This is the lowest anyone can go...

2. Treat it out with anti-venom...The people that matter in your life, convience you in a positive way to remove expectations or tell you good things about the person you are head over heels for, this helps you to confront the hate that keeps swelling up in your mind.  But this doesn't end the battle, It just becomes a stalemate. And it heads towards an end,  but very slowly and solely depending on the people you are trusting right now...

3. Take a deep breath and focus in the moment you are living in....and let the person you hold so dear, The one who whom you consider your 'God',  let them go. Both from memory and life....This ends the battle outright because the love and the hate for that person is dependent on that person...If you let go of everything related to that person,  you defeat both the love for that person as well as hate for the same person with the serenity and peace within you. This way hurts because you have to change your thinking... But it doesn't leave any collateral damage of wasted time or unmet expectations.

Personally,  the 3rd point of view is the toughest to follow,  for it requires the power of heart and mind to work together,  and many are unable to do so,  for they lack what is required. But believe me,  if you are able to do it,  you will have success in not only in this field,  but in every aspect of life.  You,  my friend,  would have understood how to accept reality for what it is. You would have learned to accept defeat,  but still have the resources to get up again for round 2.

What else could be good,  if you come out of a situation,  better and more experienced,  than before.

The Puzzles of life

Howdy people, how are you all faring in this beautiful life given to you? I hope you are excelling in what you do

Today I felt a curiosity of doing some (game) problem solving early in the morning. Hence, I sat up with the problem in my lap, being played with in a 1000 thousand different ways in my mind and this continued for some time, till an idea struck me.The idea was so interesting that the puzzle problem I was playing was out of the picture immediately.

You see, I saw the resonance of the problem I was holding in my hand and problems in my life. The faster I solved the puzzles, the faster I reached the level of satisfaction and thus, moved upon the next problem. 

So I started wondering, any problem, we face, whether it be emotional , physical or mental, we just need the patience and the willpower to see the bigger picture: 

Every problem in your life constitutes a hurdle that stops you from doing the thing you want or desire and you are given with a specific set of resources and in some cases, nothing at all. Similar is the case with a puzzle, where you are given resources to complete it and in a specific time,  and you do complete it. So you see all you need to do is get started and use the brilliant brain you possess to tackle the problems of your life and solve it in no time, after all it's just a puzzle, so it can't trouble you much. The key, however, lies in believing yourself in solving the puzzle in front of you as well as that the puzzle is just a small exercise you are doing. This takes away the awfulness, laziness or any fear that was attached to the given problem, thus rendering it powerless and weak. And you being a beast, devour it in no time.

Our aim is getting from point A to point B. And the only way the points are connected are is through a series of chains. These chains are made up of small links that specify different moments that help us in absorbing different experiences from different problems faced by us. Each problem has a unique set of solution and only we can solve them. Asking others to solve them is fruitless as this is your journey, thus, it needs to be solved by you or it looses it's purpose. Still, if someone does help you and solves the problem in your stead, the benefit of experience, will also be credited by that person. What was meant for you was taken by someone else. Tell me now, was it be worth anything to you at all?

True, you face problems that are bigger than your own existence, but you underestimate the smarts you possess, and that how efficient you are in that trade. People must have the power of belief to see themselves as puzzle masters, having the ability to solve their problems in nick of time. Some problems may make you struggle a lot, while some will make you yawn at the ease of their complexity. But here is the important point: No problem is bigger than you, but longer the problem is possessed by you, the longer you take to solve it, the more it becomes boring and tiresome, resulting in your decreased efficiency. So if you face a problem in your life and you have the right set of mind, DO NOT , I repeat, do not procrastinate i.e. delaying it for a latter time. Give your 100% immediately as if your life depended on it. If you do this every single time, any hurdle obstructing your life will become rubble in a matter of second. 

How smart a person is varies way too much thus, comparing yourself with others is useless. What and how they solve their life is their own unique method, while you have your own. So, comparing with others never gets you anywhere except at a place with low self esteem and with even more troubles and problems than before. If you really are a competitive freak, you can compare yourself of the yesterday. This way, all you will be doing is increasing your efficiency.

So, the next time, you see a problem obstructing your path, put a evil smile like the one above. Not because you are evil (, right?) but because you see the problem in front of you not as a wall that you need to break with great strength, but as fresh food for you personality to grow and increase in strength and intensity. This will help you solve and live a more peaceful and satisfactory life than you can ever wonder. 

WHEN WE CHANGE THE WAY
 WE LOOK AT THINGS, 
THE THINGS WE LOOK AT START CHANGING 

The High of Regret

Is the value of Future so great;

So much so, that our present is worth all the hate;

People wasting away their confirmed and enjoyable time;

With reasons so stupid that can not be explained in this rhyme;

Dreaming and aiming is so cheap;

But it's the realization of this Aim that make you fucking weep;

This aim of yours, needs your best from getting your butt scattered;

But it's the remaining areas of life, that turn broken and battered;

'Keep Developing' should be the mantra, like a daily bath;

After all, devotion to success is the only true path;

Everyone plans their future by doing some math;

The present gets ignored and it does come back with a new name: Regret, in all it's wrath;

It's when we start loosing people that we awaken;

But Karma has it's own plans: what you didn't value will be taken;

That's when you will realize, all you did was make your life forsaken;

The worries of future things are nothing but your brain's squawk;

Live your present to the brim and it will become your future's hack;

Just for 'What's about to come' ,don't live your present as if it ain't worth a jack;

My point to you is: Cherish the people & moments in your fate;

So that it's just not you who stands at the your achievement's gate;

The day you achieve this, will you have lived fully & successfully mate;

-For:  Naive

-Written by:  Regret

-Published by: Pain

THANK YOU

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